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August 12, 2017


Proverbs 29:22 An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth in transgression.


Be careful that your little squabbles do not turn into combustible flames that put a forest to rest. The tongue can antagonize, demean, ridicule, oppress and attempt to control others.


We do not want our tongues to become weapons of mass destruction on a person’s soul. We are not to use our words intentionally to bring others onto submission and under our rule.


How many times do our tongues wag before we even think about what we are going to say? We should ask ourselves is what I am about to say seem hurtful to me if they were said in return?


James 3:5-6

5 Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!

6 And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.


Squabbles can turn into heated arguments which can turn into rage. What is the point of instigating a fight?


James 1:19-20 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:

20 For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.


If you have NPD then wrath is par for the course, it is your pleasure to start a fight, knock out, drag down till your opponent bruises and bleeds over and over again. The NPD world is a very sick one where destruction is their end game, but not till death because they need to relive the memory of shooting torpedoes into your heart. We are not to allow abuse.


Our voice can be either condescending or edifying. For example you can ask gracefully “Can you mow the lawn, you do a great job?” or “Can you mow the lawn!!!”

We may need to get a point across, but the delivery can greatly affect the outcome.



Ephesians 4:29

“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.” 


Philippians 2:3 (KJV)

3 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.

How do we do that? By having the heart of Jesus…

Philippians 2:8 (KJV)

8 And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.


The arrogant do not understand humility. They would rather step on your head in lieu of regarding you as more important. Jesus loved others but He was not afraid to tell the Pharisees they were white washed tombs either. He turned over the money changing tables making his Father’s house a place of business. He regarded them as vipers. David also had a few choice words for his enemies.


Love is considerate in words and action. It does not want to inflict pain in any way. It is checking our words with the fruit of God’s Holy Spirit.


Galatians 5:22-26 (KJV)

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,

23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.

24 And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.

25 If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit.

26 Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another.


If you refuse to control your tongue you are selfish to the core. This is evil’s best behavior to watch others suffer for the sake of domination. Provoking another is a way of validating superiority. People cannot be treated as slaves with intimidation and bullying. Your every whim does not merit one to sit on a throne and be king. We only have one King, Jesus Christ. Your demand to be served maintains your status to be last.


Matthew 20:16 (KJV)

16 So the last shall be first, and the first last: for many be called, but few chosen.


Matthew 20:28 (KJV)

28 Even as the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give his life a ransom for many.


When does a person believe they have a right to blow their stack and escalate a normal conversation to an explosive volcano? It’s this type of person that gets an adrenaline rush from watching fear tower over someone’s face.


Why does one place pressure on others for lacking perfection when they cannot live up to perfection themselves?

The deeds of the flesh are…


Galatians 5:19-21 (KJV)

19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,

20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,

21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.


This is powerful scripture as it states if you do these things you will NOT inherit the Kingdom of God.


Proverbs 15:8 (KJV) A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife.


So what seethes within comes forth from the mouth. This is the evidence of what a person’s heart is made of. You can’t have bitter and sweet water coming from the same fountain. That would make one an imposter or as the Lord calls them, a hypocrite.


James 3:11 Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter?


Matthew 23:27 Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye are like unto whited sepulchres, which indeed appear beautiful outward, but are within full of dead men's bones, and of all uncleanness.


Proverbs 17:14 (KJV)

14 The beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water: therefore leave off contention, before it be meddled with.


The NPD chooses a smear campaign to ruin one’s reputation and detract from their evil behavior. They shoot arrows and expect you to be a stationary target so they can be entertained. The first line of defense for them is to lie, lie and then lie playing the victim role when in reality they are the villain with a smile.


Proverbs 16:28 (KJV) A froward man soweth strife: and a whisperer separateth chief friends.


Contentious means to be antagonistic, combative, factious and quarrelsome. It’s placing the kindling wood and using a flame to start the fire going until it is out of control. This is the thrill of it all for the malicious soul who likes to see hell burning in their face.


Proverbs 26:21 (KJV) As coals are to burning coals, and wood to fire; so is a contentious man to kindle strife.

Proverbs 29:22 An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth in transgression.


Sin doesn’t even exist in the conscience of the quarrelsome and contentious person. If it does it becomes more like a coexist partner unifying and strengthening their belief in stirring up strife and abuse.


We as believers must watch out for the deceivers who only wish to harm others with their words. Let us watch our speech and our tongues so they bring edification and building up of one another rather than tearing others down.


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