Where does our attitude come from? It comes from our perspective or in case of a believer it is hopefully God’s perspective. When this is off kilter, our perception can be skewed by our own views or mind set.
Thoughts can drift into resentment or bitterness and uncontrolled hostility. What is important is not to invalidate our own feelings, but to take these feelings to the Lord or have a trusted friend to share them with. Prayer is most effective as it brings about understanding, direction and wisdom.
Our world has propagated narcissists and they have no thought of loving your neighbor unless something is in it for them. Love has truly grown cold as the Lord said it would. The world loves its own and if you are a believer Jesus said if they hated Him, they would hate us.
What do you do with this? We are in this world but not of it, so we need to remind ourselves that persecution will come in unexpected places. There are tares among the wheat and we cannot be surprised when one of these tares is the narcissist who hates you.
In the midst of it all, we need to ask Jesus to give us the strength to remain without bitterness or resentment. Vindication will come, this guaranteed. God said He will not leave the guilty unpunished.
Our attitude is not a plastic smile or fake persona. This is the narcissist. Our attitude is one that is authentic but reflects the true nature of Jesus as we have the mind of Christ.
1 Corinthians 2:16 (KJV)
16 For who hath known the mind of the Lord, that he may instruct him? but we have the mind of Christ.
This is powerful scripture, knowing we have the mind of Christ; we can apply His character to every situation. Our thoughts can define what we believe. It is either going to lead us closer to walking with Jesus or drift us away into flesh driven thoughts.
Jesus had righteous anger throwing the money changing tables over in the temple. He was not passive in his thinking. This is where we need wisdom in our thoughts, attitudes and actions when we face difficult and challenging circumstances.
Jesus said not to cast your pearls before swine unless they trample over you. So this is good advice. When people don’t want to change their mean behavior, you don’t give them a word of wisdom. They will despise you for it.
Matthew 7:6 Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.
What truly helps is knowing how faithful God is to all of His children. He is a God of justice and no one gets away with evil.