A narcissist's favorite pass time is to become a woody wood pecker. They love to peck away at you in order to chip away at all the good qualities you have. If you don't pay attention to it, it's like cutting off their beak.
They want to turn your world upside down because their's is upside down.
They call evil good and good evil.
Isaiah 5:20 King James Version (KJV)
20 Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!
They feel if you are loving, kind, generous, helpful, merciful, joyful and content you must be ferociously pecked.
Narcissist's are great at nagging. They complain about nothing. It's like they unfold their inward person and allow you to see who they really are.
Your light is much too great to bear so they must snuff it out at all costs. If you think about it, they have to be the most selfish of all to only think of themselves. They believe you don't have a right to think for or of yourself.
We can't let anyone control our emotions. We own them by controlling our thoughts. We know who we are in Jesus.