This video is titled three levels of covert narcissism. I thought he was right on with his analysis. My comment on his site:
When they throw out their bait in attempts to manipulate you mentally and emotionally, remind yourself don't take the bait because if you do, you will end up on a hook that causes pain, stress, trauma, anxiety, mental exhaustion and fear. For them it is the greatest show on earth and can't wait to get their next fix. Don't engage in their trauma bonding tactics.